How to be Christ-like

We had a grad party this weekend for my oldest. I shared something personal with a Christian friend of our family. I told her about some struggles with my youngest daughter. Instead of empathy, she got a bit riled up and told me I needed to cast out Satan. Then started talking about the culture and how evil it was. When I mentioned my daughter broke her tibia and was upset she couldn’t drive, she rolled her eyes. I walked away.

Later she asked my husband & I where we attended church. I snarkily said, “Church of the Holy Comforter” meaning my bed. She got defensive, “I’m just asking”. But I know her. She’ll write me off and act like I’m trash because I don’t go to church. She already was being super rude.

Is it not obvious to her that she acts like a religious nut? And is it any wonder then why I don’t want to attend church? I mean, if she acts like that and we are supposed friends, I can only imagine what people I don’t know well will act like.

The concept of Christ, in and of itself, is beautiful. His dying to save humanity. His selfless life. His deep love for people. But often times all I see in his followers are judgments, criticism, and pointed fingers. Empathy is nonexistent.

I hold on to the beauty of Christ however small it is right now. I don’t feel like I love God or want to pray or read the Bible, but I do recognize the goodness in His life. If God is real (which I haven’t judged against as of now), then he’ll have to swing me back through his own methods. And it won’t be from judgy church members or finger pointing Christian “friends” .


5 thoughts on “How to be Christ-like

    • Michelle says:

      Yes I wish!! I feel sad when I see people act like this. It makes me not want to be apart of anything Christian. It’s like they have to answers to everything and I’m stupid for not getting it. I don’t like black and white thinking. But yeah, I agree with your posts too!

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  1. Ben says:

    This is a great post and a great example of how people use Christianity as a weapon of judgment instead of using it to unite people. Things like this are reasons why I left it behind. I have been told several times that I need to accept Jesus and Christianity or else Hell is what awaits me. I can’t accept this religion as it is. The Bible has many issues I can’t accept and the church is far too broken for me to ever go back. I wouldn’t say that I am an atheist. I don’t think I’ll ever go that far. I’m just at the point where I have to deal with my doubts instead of ignoring them in order to be a good sheep and I have to get rid of beliefs based on known errors or lies. If God wants to reach me, then God alone would know exactly what it would take to bring me back. God would know the problems with the church and not hold it against us when we leave. If God is all knowing and all powerful, he could and would bring us all to him without relying on flawed humans who use religion for their own needs.

    These are obviously just my views and I would never try to force them on anyone else. We all need to decide what we believe in and what to do with our own lives.


    • Michelle says:

      Right. And that’s where I’m at give or take a few points. In Christianity, it seems like things are very black ajg white. If you struggle, it’s because you don’t trust God. If you are depressed, it’s because you lack faith. Then being told that God cares and is using this hard thing to make you holy… I mean, couldn’t he just have created me to be holy? Why do I have to be tested. Seems ludicrous honestly. Like if God cares so much, then he must be a sadist.

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