What’s so great about high school?

Who remembers classmates.com? You know, the website where you reconnect with your high school class and post pics of your current life?

Apparently 70 million people still use the website. They’ve morphed into more of a high school memorabilia site, with digital year books but you can still connect with your classmates if you sign up.

I had an account there a long time ago. But then I realized I didn’t really love high school and had no ambition to reconnect with most of the people I attended high school with. But I also only went to that school my senior year. So I only made a few friends.

With the creation of MySpace and then Facebook, classmates.com became an afterthought, at least for me.

I was recently in a counseling session when I brought up the fact that I don’t know many people who still hang out with their high school friends. My counselor, in an effort to change my mind, told me she still talked to her high school friends and so did her kids. I wasn’t talking about her. I was talking about people I knew. And most people I know don’t have a relationship with their high school pals. But, she’s in her 60’s so her kids are probably around my age. But it’s just different now.

We are raising the loneliest generation, where kids no longer hang out outside but sit on social media or their phones. They are disconnected and distant. They’d prefer to be a YouTube star over being popular at school. Places like classmates.com almost is laughable.

And it affects people my age as well. As I go through life, I change and become someone else. My friends change at times too. My social circle gets refined. Some people can’t deal with my changes. Sometimes I can’t deal with theirs. The ones that can, stick around but sometimes our get togethers are few and far between.

I’ve noticed something else too. When I’ve run into people from my past, they’ll say, “hey, we should meet up soon.” But then there is no firm plan. When I try to nail down a date, they say they’ll get back to me. Why offer in the first place if your intention is to never actually follow through? Maybe it’s just what people do to make themselves think highly of themselves. I don’t know. But I quit chasing people like that.

Sometimes high school seems like another lifetime ago. When my daughter feels like everything is so hard and that no one likes her, I remind her that high school is only a tiny portion of our lives.

Why do so many people want to relive it? Why do we want to attend reunions or join websites to know what our old class is doing? I know for some, they had good memories but just lost touch. For them, I suppose it’s a good thing to reconnect.

For people like me, it’s such a distant memory with so little to do with how I live now. My thoughts, my dreams, my friends, my crushes, my academics were all for a person that I no longer am. I’ve changed so drastically. Most wouldn’t recognize me from the wallflower, overly fearful girl that tried to make herself scarce. I survived those halls. Just barely.

Today, I am much more bold and carefree. I still have fears but I don’t let it ruin me. I don’t feel the need to fit in with people.

Times have changed and so have I.

Fun fact: There’s actually a movie made by some Christian company about a kid I graduated with. His name was Michael Boyum. I dated his girlfriends brother. In the movie, they have scenes for prom and the graduating class of 1995. Same year I graduated. It’s called “Until Forever” and it looks cheesy. I couldn’t bring myself to watch it because I knew Michael and he died of Lukemia. Also, I don’t care for my ex and I think he’s in the movie.

What about you? Do you still talk to your high school class?

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7 thoughts on “What’s so great about high school?

  1. Ben says:

    I have not stayed in touch with people from high school for the most part. I was on myspace and Facebook for a while. I grew tired of the constant “I need to know what everyone is doing at all times” thing. Most of my friends on Facebook were people from high school that I wasn’t even friends with in high school. They saw my name, recognized it, and friended me. What a joke. I haven’t been on Facebook for a few years now.

    It’s funny, the place I work is in the town I grew up in. There are people I went to school with that also work there. We don’t talk at all other than a “hi” here or there or something work-related. It’s like we pretend we don’t know each other anymore. That’s fine. The people I know there were never friends so why pretend we are now? I can guarantee if I was still on Facebook, they’d want tot be my friend. People like fake and superficial more than they do real and meaningful.

    True friendships from high school can last but they are rare in my opinion. I had a friend from high school that I remained close to for several years after graduation. I haven’t spoken to him in at least 12 years now, but even before that it wasn’t all the time. He moved on to different things. Oh well.

    I can honestly say the only true friendship that I have from high school is my wife. We started dating during our senior year and we’re still together over 22 years later. It’s crazy to think that we’ve been together since we were 17. I’m 40 now and she will be in October. How’d we get so old so quickly? Our 20th wedding anniversary is coming up in a few weeks. That’s crazy too. But other than her, I don’t really have a clue what anybody from high school is up to nowadays….and I’m okay with that.

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    • Michelle says:

      Yeah well that’s the best kind of friendship. Wow, 17. I’ve known my husband since 19 but we didn’t meet in high school. Yes, that fake stuff annoys me so much. I still don’t understand the point of having Facebook friends from high school but never even connecting. It’s phony for sure.

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  2. Ben says:

    Being together since you were 19 is a long time too. It’s a rarity these days.

    I don’t like being fake or having others be fake to me. I was the fake version of myself for all the years when I went to church and I witnessed everyone around me being fake as well. We all knew that it was an act inside “God’s house” but we went on with the show anyway. I’m sure I wasn’t the only one rolling my eyes while sitting in the pews and then talking about people on the ride back home. I’m not saying that doing that is right, but it did happen…a lot. 🙂

    Who I am here on WordPress is who I am at home. Ask my wife, she’ll tell you that my long-winded posts are nothing compared to the long-winded conversations we have about the same subjects…with me doing the majority of the talking. It’s not that I like to hear myself talk, it’s just that I’m always right and everyone else needs to hear it. Lol.

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